Lately, I have desperately been trying to find the good in all situations, or at the least not let the bad aspects of life affect me as much as they used to. I have been trying to find new ways to cope with anxiety and negativity, which has a way of just creeping in on us. Now, I will not sit here and preach that I have unlocked the secret and I’m happy 24/7. I’m sorry to break it to you, but that just doesn’t exist. Positivity is something that EVERYONE struggles with. If there is someone reading this that’s thinking, “nope not me, I’m peachy all the time” please message me and tell me what the heck all of us are doing wrong! Until then, I have come up with a few things that have been helping me present the best version of myself to the people around me and also to myself, because let’s face it, when all you think is negative, you feel negative toward yourself. I also tend to beat myself up a lot if I wake up in the morning and I am convinced that today is going to be a great day, I’m going to radiate positivity to everyone, say only nice, encouraging things to my husband and friends… and then bam. Something happens and I catch myself. Crap! I just ruined it. I was trying to be so great and I lost my temper, or I spoke negatively about something. It happens!! No one is perfect and it is more than okay to have feelings other than happiness, and like I said, if you don’t, come talk to me! There are things, however, that I have been practicing to stay as positive as I can in order to deal with those times that I really just want to pull my hair out! I wanted to share them with you, that way if you struggle with staying positive like everyone does, hopefully these tips can help!
So here it goes!
Quiet time- Keep your eye on the prize!
I take a little time every morning to read my devotional and have some quiet time with God. This is what sets the tone for my day. Starting your day with Him changes everything, trust me! Faith is an amazing thing, and if you are someone that doesn’t have it, I would love nothing more than to talk to you and learn with you, because even if you’ve known God all of your life like me, we all have something to gain! By speaking with Him everyday, throughout the day, I just have a more positive outlook on anything that comes my way. Even if it is something terrible, it happened for a reason. Sometimes the most incomprehensible things can happen to the greatest person just to lead them where He wants.
All of these throw pillows are from Target! Link at the bottom!
Get some sun! Oh my goodness there is nothing worse than sitting indoors all day. At the end of my day, I like to go on a walk with Keaton, even if I’m tired and don’t want to, this helps me so much! I am inside all day either working, doing schoolwork, on my computer, or on my phone, and I can’t tell you how good it feels to just put the phone down, leave the computer, and enjoy a little bit of nature! It helps me relax, let go of stress for a bit, and just feel better all around!
Outfit details linked at bottom!
Surround yourself with people who lift you up
This is something I have struggled with a lot, and I think everyone does. We are always attached to those friends we have had for a long time, but sometimes you just have to look at the bigger picture, and that may be that you’ve grown out of them! It’s so important to surround yourself with people that share your values and ambitions. Now, I’m not saying completely abandon those friends who don’t, but try to be the person that lifts them up! By surrounding yourself with people who have a positive impact on you or that you admire, you will see some of those qualities rubbing off on you, and you will start to exemplify the parts of yourself that you love! I listened to a podcast the other day on “The Porch” (my favorite Christian podcast that I will also being doing a blog post on) and he talked about how “you are the average of your five closest friends”. This really got me thinking about how true that really was with the way we rub off on each other, and how important it really is to surround yourself with good people!
Jordon’s necklace linked at the bottom!
Put time aside for family and/or friends
We are all busy and we’ve all got things to do! However, just as I said about the importance of putting away my phone at times, I make sure I do this when I go on walks with my son. It is so important to make time for family/friends. At the end of the day I like to put a good amount of time towards just talking to my husband and spending time with him and my son. Whether this is during dinner, watching a show, or right when we get into bed, it is so important! Don’t think about the things you could or should be doing, just be in the moment with the people you love. By taking the time to do that and step away from the stress of everyday life, you can reconnect with those who truly matter and give yourself a little bit of a break! If not you’ll look up after however long and ask what happened to my marriage? How did my kid grow up while I was at work? Then you will think more positively and be so thankful for the time you have with them, and you will really savor every moment that you aren’t distracted.
Best stroller ever linked as well!
Think- Will this matter in 5 years?
I ask myself this on a daily basis! It’s something I started well… about 5 years ago. Basically though, in any situation where you feel yourself getting frustrated or about to blow your top, stop and think, “Will this matter five years from now?” Will I even remember this guy pulling out in front of me in the road? Will this lady’s comment really affect me then? Will.. This.. Matter?! Now, I’m not going to lie and say there hasn’t been times that I have gotten overly frustrated (most likely with my husband) and thought “Will this matter in five years? Probably not, but I’m so frustrated I’m gonna pick this fight anyways”. And guess what? Not even a year later and I can’t tell you what one of those fights was about. So seriously, ask yourself if it’s worth it, and if its not, spare yourself the frustration and the energy it will take to get every last word and emotion you’re having to the other person. Chances are, most of the time it isn’t worth it and you’re allowing negative thoughts or actions of others affect how you live your life. Live it right, live it how you want, and most importantly how Christ wants. Don’t let others control your happiness!
Super cozy and affordable comforter also linked at bottom! Couldn’t find my exact pjs but linked similar ones for y’all!
These are all things that I have implemented in my life in order to be a happier more positive person. I hope they can help you do the same!
P.S. what are some things you do to help you stay positive? Leave a comment!